2 Things We Must Teach Our Students About Sex & Dating

My guess is that the vast majority of youth ministries teach about relationships and sex during the month of February.  If it is not February, then it is some other time of the year.  So why am I telling you that you must teach on them if you are already doing it? What I am wondering is if we are doing it wrong.  When you look at the statistics and the dysfunction of our students have we missed the mark? Now, this is not supposed to be a guilt trip but it’s more of me asking questions about how we address these issues.

The two question we need to ask are…

You Need to See This and 3 Ways to End Bullying

Honestly, I wasn’t expecting too much after seeing so many youth productions in the past 3 decades but after watching this I was blown away by the original score, the humor, and the honesty by the students.

Finally a high quality, original production for youth groups addresses in a funny yet dramatic way, gripping issues like bullying, depression, peer pressure and redemption.

To read more about it, get the link to watch the video and to contact the Jeremy the youth pastor who wrote, directed, and produced this video click here:

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Contact Pastor Jeremy  pastorjgifford@gmail.com

3 Strategies to End Bullying

These 2 Secrets Make Moms of Teens Amazing

Mom’s perform heroics in the teen years.

The crazy thing is, so often they wonder if they are doing anything right. Questions like how tightly should I hold the apron strings, or am I more like a friend now or mentor, sometimes plague their minds. And then there is the wrestling with fears as their over-sized, fashion conscious toddlers dash out the door or get behind the wheel!

Let’s face it, Moms are pretty spectacular but the two most important secrets we can learn from moms of teens, are ones that we all should hang on to for life!

3 Things We Must Teach Our Students

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So, another youth night is coming up and you are wondering what you should talk about.   You could just open up your Bible, put your finger down and preach on that passage.  You could speak on what interests you.  You could even speak on something you are going through right now.

All of these methods can get you through one or two sermons, but a whole year???

If you figure you have a student in your ministry for 3 years (I know it might be shorter or longer, but work with me) what would be the list of things that they would HAVE to be taught? The idea is that when it is time to work on your lesson you go to the list and pick the topic.

Here are 3 of those things that I think must be on that list.


I have had anger issues that have cost me.

Anger has cost me relationships, a job, and almost my ministry. It is frightening to see the devastation anger can cause…(ask the Hulk!) I can’t afford to allow anger to hurt my family and so I have had to follow a process to make anger work for me instead of destroying everything I love. Maybe this process will work for you too…

These 3 Simple Stress Solutions Can Work for You

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Stress is damaging and contagious. Our kids are affected by it. Parents of teens are about as stressed as you can get. Not only are we stressed over conflicts with our kids, we are also dealing with the health issues of our parents. Somewhere in there is our personal stress about money, work, the future, and our own health concerns.

This has been so true for me over the past few months that I had to take some intentional steps to get some relief. It worked!  I really hope that these will work for you too.

2 Things Chess Has Taught Me About Youth Ministry

I know, what does chess have to do with youth ministry?  For me it started in New York City.  I was walking through a small park and I saw a guy setting up a chess board.  I thought it would have been fun to play him but I barely know the rules of chess, never mind challenge someone.

So that day I decided to familiarize myself with the game of chess.  Over the past few months I have learned two things that can help us in youth ministry.

not just your son’s problem

A growing number of women are addicted to internet pornography. They admit that this addiction began in their teen years. So as much as we are alarmed with the amount of male students regularly viewing pornography, the rate of teenage girls looking at sexual images and videos is increasing rapidly.

Studies show that explicit material is accessed on phones, so it is increasingly difficult to monitor and control. Rather than turning a blind eye, hoping this will not be a problem for girls, there are at least three things that parents can do.